over the past 15 years of coaching, researching, &
building my own relationship...

I've discovered some really important truths...

over the past 15 years of coaching, researching, &
building my own relationship...

I've discovered some really important truths

The truth is, you were probably not role-modeled a healthy relationship by your caretakers, so you have no idea what it looks like or feels like.

AWESOME FORMER GRAD, MARISA! 👆

The truth is dating and relationships are completely different than 40 years ago. We now want beautiful, equal partnerships, yet we have zero idea how to make that happen.

AWESOME FORMER GRAD,  CASSIE 👆

The truth is you grew up in a culture that values fantasy over reality, quick-fixes over deep work, and happily-ever-afters over the truth of what it takes to be in a long-term relationship.

AWESOME FORMER GRAD,  SARAH 👆

The truth is:

You can hire the world's greatest matchmaker.

Have your dating profile professionally done.

Get in the best shape of your life!

AWESOME FORMER GRAD, MARISA! 👆

The truth is, you were probably not role-modeled a healthy relationship by your caretakers, so you have no idea what it looks like or feels like.

AWESOME FORMER GRAD,  SARAH 👆

The truth is dating and relationships are completely different than 40 years ago. We now want beautiful, equal partnerships, yet we have zero idea how to make that happen.

AWESOME FORMER GRAD,  CASSIE 👆

The truth is you grew up in a culture that values fantasy over reality, quick-fixes over deep work, and happily-ever-afters over the truth of what it takes to be in a long-term relationship.

THE TRUTH IS

YOU CAN HIRE THE WORLD'S GREATEST MATCHMAKER.

Have your dating profile professionally done.

GET IN THE BEST SHAPE OF YOUR LIFE!

But none of it matters if you have zero idea how to build a healthy relationship

But none of it matters if you have zero idea how to build a healthy relationship

Hey, I'm Kira

I’m one-part unicorn, one-part sweary fairy godmother and all-parts devoted to helping you realize that you are not f*cked up, broken or unlovable … and that, you know, you’re actually a pretty fricken fabulous person worthy of happiness, love and a mind-blowingly beautiful relationship where you wake up feeling loved every. single. day.

I’m obsessed with having the bigger conversations around love and relationships. The ones that nobody else is having … but everyone should.

 

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I get you because I was you.

In addition to having coached singles all the way from San Diego to Singapore since 2007 (and being a positive psychology practitioner and professional certified coach to boot!), I am also well-versed in the not-so-fabulous art of being really fucking single. 

When I was actually dating (if we could call it that), I seemed to get friend-zoned by the guys I did like or the few times we did connect, I would bend myself into a pretzel just hoping they would love me and stay. Spoiler alert! They didn’t.

After a ton of self-work and research, I stopped doing all the weird shit that we’re told we should do, and put everything I had learned into practice, creating an amazing relationship at 41 years old. In a town of less than 5,000. While I was at my heaviest weight.

Boom!

I'm living proof that love & relationships can be WAY better than you even imagine & is worth working towards.

fast facts:

NICKNAME: Troop Leader of Love

PRONOUNS: She/her

AGE: I’m 50! And I kick & I stretch!

HANGING OUT IN: Madison, WI 

HUSBAND AS OF 9/2018: Danny the Awesome

FURBABIES: Rex, the dog, and Ruby, the cat.

SOULMATE: Cheese

#WOMANCRUSH: Tie between Brene Brown, Oprah, Melissa McCarthy, Jane Goodall, & every kitten foster out there.

CAN SPEAK: Norwegian (a little), Espanol (un poco) and No Bullshit (fluent).

BLACKBELT IN: Ridiculous

FORMERLY: Worked on a cruise ship. Yes, just like Julie McCoy from the Love Boat.

FAVORITE ANIMALS: Sloths, monkeys, & kittens!

ABBREVIATIONS: ADHD, PCOS, & ENFP

LIFE GOALS: Flip an old motel into a retreat center.

OBSESSED WITH:  Big glasses, Ted Lasso, neuroscience, Phoebe Bridgers, smarty podcasts, Brene, Icelandic Music, the book Burnout, Burt’s Bees lip balm, Parks & Rec, When Harry Met Sally, strong-ass coffee, MCU, sloths & monkeys, documentaries, amazing chips & salsa, GBBO, unicorns, 80s movies, sparkling water, Trader Joe’s, awkward dancing, fancy baths, & love.

REINVENTING DATING VALUES

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Inclusivity

Love is love. Everyone is welcome here if willing to work on yourself.

02

Integrity

I'm helping people build building deep friendships & partnerships that work with a ton of integrity. No games. No pretending you're something you're not. You show up as you.

03

Growth

New information & research is available all the time. I will continue to evolve & grow with that new knowledge.

04

Empathy

Anyone who is out there trying build a relationship deserves your respect. You don't have to date them, but you do need to be kind and compassionate. No bad date bashing allowed.

05

Ownership

This work ONLY works when we dig into our role. We can only change ourselves in every relationship. What we choose, what we allow, what we tolerate and why.

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