Let me tell you a few things I am all about…..

1)  Coffee so strong it will put hair on your chest.

2)  Soul filling music that is so good it actually changes your mood.  {Hence, I keep making you playlists}

3)  Life changing conversations with anyone.  The kind that make you realize that someone has just beautifully shared a little piece of their life.

4)  True Naples Pizza.  Wood-fired, puffy on the outside and thin in the middle.  I live for that shit.

5)  Doing my absolute best to set myself up for success for all situations.  This includes realistic expectations, saying no to things and bringing only the awesomest of people into my life.

The last one is really important at this time of the year.  Being an “in it to win it” kind of person, I always want to set huge goals for myself for my New Year’s Resolutions.  I have learned the hard way that is downright silly.

Raise your hand in the air like you just don’t care if this sounds like you.

You sit up at night thinking about all of the things you need to do.  What you really, really want. Promising yourself in the wee hours of the morning that this year will be different.  This year you will ___________ {fill in the blank}

You then make these grandiose plans and then get frustrated, overwhelmed and give up.  Proving to yourself that you are a failure.  Bad news bears.

So you know, none of that is true.  At all.  You just didn’t set yourself up for realistic success.  I know for myself,  after years of doing that and failing, I go back to the very basic idea from What About Bob….it is all about baby steps.

Here is a reminder if you forgot:)


So this year, I am throwing out all of my resolutions and choosing one small, simple way to change my life for the better and I am challenging you to join me.  I am starting a Happiness Jar.

“What is that?” you exclaim!  Let me tell you.

Started by Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love, the concept is super simple.  Here are the basics.

At the end of every day, write down your best moment of the day and put it in the jar.  That’s it.  Why is that so important?  First of all, to keep yourself in the mindset of looking for good things.  Second, because when you are having a tough day you can look through your happy moments and successes to remind you that this is only a blip of yuckiness.

Here is what her jar looks like.



League of Adventurous Singles Addition: Why not also add little things that make you happy.  Quotes, tickets to a concert or event, pictures of people who love you.  I mean, this is your happiness jar. Go to town.

How super simple and fun is that?  AND you get to use a mason jar!  OMG! We are so pinteresty.

You can of course decorate it however you want, but I have also created a couple of printables if you want to use them for your jar because in case you haven’t noticed, I really like you.  I am not a professional graphic designer, so give me a little break.  AND by the way, one is inspired by Kool and the Gang:)

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