Change your love life in a DAY.

The science-backed, day-long, virtual intensives to kickstart intentional dating that actually works.

Dig into your love life in a DAY.

The science-backed day-long virtual intensives to kickstart intentional dating & relationships that actually work.

AWESOME FORMER GRAD, IRENE–>

In YOUR Reinventing Dating INTENSIVE you'll learn how to:

In YOUR Reinventing Dating INTENSIVE you'll learn how to:

Spot a great match for you

Stop wasting your time swiping & texting hoping that the next random person will be “the one”. We can do better than that for your LIFE PARTNER! Stack the deck in your favor by learning who you’re attracted to & why, how your attachment style plays a role, who is a good match for you & how to spot them in real life.

date smarter & with confidence

It’s amazing how much easier dating can feel when you have a plan! Using my proven healthy dating timelines, mindsets, safety tips, scripts, questions, after-date assessments, & more, it makes it a ton easier to date with confidence & to not get stuck where you shouldn’t be.

CREATE relationships you actually want

What’s the point of having a relationship if it’s mediocre at best or even terrible. That’s lonelier than being single. Learn how to build a partnership from day one that is full of trust, respect, honesty, & joy where BOTH of you feel loved every single day. That’s the whole point.

We all want love.
But NO ONE wants to date to get it.

BECAUSE YOU & I BOTH KNOW, DATING KINDA SUCKS.

Even on it’s best day, dating feels:

Even on it’s best day, dating feels:

Healthy relationships & love can absolutely change your life.

BUT The keyword here is “Healthy” & most of us have no idea how to date & create a healthy relationship.

BUT The keyword here is “Healthy” & most of us have no idea how to date & create a healthy relationship.

AND HERE'S THE THING...

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It's not your fault.

02

It's not your date's fault.

03

It's not your crummy ex's fault.

04

It's not even Disney's fault.

(ALTHOUGH THEY DIDN’T HELP)

As unsexy as this sounds, we are only starting to understand the psychology, skills, & mindsets behind healthy dating & relationships & you were taught NONE OF IT!

As unsexy as this sounds, we are only starting to understand the psychology, skills, & mindsets behind healthy dating & relationships & you were taught NONE OF IT!

Hi, I'm Kira!

I teach singles & new couples how to date smarter & build relationships they actually want.

Hi! I’m Kira.

I teach singles & new couples how to date smarter & build relationships they
actually want.

A few things about me…

I get you, because I was you

In addition to having coached singles all the way from San Diego to Singapore since 2008 (plus being a positive psychology practitioner & professional certified coach to boot!), I am also well-versed in the not-so-fabulous art of being really fucking single.

When I was actually dating (if we could call it that), the moment I caught feelings I would bend myself into a pretzel just hoping that if I became what I thought they wanted they would love me and stay FOOORRREEEEVVVERRRRR!!! Spoiler alert. They didn’t. 😂

After my Dad got sick in 2014, it woke me up that the only person who was going to change my relationship status, was me.  

So I stopped doing all the weird shit that women are  told we should do, and put everything I had researched into practice. 

Later that year, I met my incredible husband, Danny, at 41 years old, in my hometown of less than 5,000 & at my heaviest weight. 

And now I teach singles how to date to create beautiful partnerships that actually work.

Kira & Danny getting married in mexico in 2018👇
Kira & Danny getting married in mexico in 2018--->

I get you, because I was you

In addition to having coached singles all the way from San Diego to Singapore since 2007 (plus being a positive psychology practitioner & professional certified coach to boot!), I am also well-versed in the not-so-fabulous art of being really fucking single.

When I was actually dating (if we could call it that), the moment I caught feelings I would bend myself into a pretzel just hoping that if I became what I thought they wanted they would love me and stay FOOORRREEEEVVVERRRRR!!! Spoiler alert. They didn’t. 😂

After my Dad got sick in 2014, it woke me up that the only person who was going to change my relationship status, was me.  

So I stopped doing all the weird shit that women are  told we should do but sells our souls, and put everything I had researched into practice.  Later that year, I met my incredible husband, Danny,  at 41 years old, in my hometown of less than 5,000 & at my heaviest weight. 

And now I spend my days teaching singles how to date to create beautiful partnerships that actually work.

Kira & Danny getting married in mexico in 2018--->
Kira & Danny getting married in mexico in 2018👇
SUCCESS STORIES

"Why didn't I do this sooner?"

"I think of all the YEARS I spent reading self-help articles, bitching to friends about my love life, and stumbling through the dating world on my own and I cringe, because in less than six months, Kira gave me all the life-changing tools I needed to build a healthy relationship."
Sara, OH

Welcome to the Reinventing Dating Day Intensive

You & me digging in to a completely customized coaching day to dig into your deepest needs, walking away smarter, more confident & with a plan.

Welcome to the Reinventing Dating 1:1 Intensive

You and me spending the day digging in to the topic of your choice, walking away smarter, more confident & with a customized action plan.

Fast Facts

WHO IS THIS FOR?

Any single (women or men) over the age of 21.

Day intensives are great for people who:

  • Enjoy 1:1 work & having the full focus on you & your goals.
  • Aren’t sure what they need to work on & would LOVE an expert to help them figure it out.
  • Like to get shit done & enjoy short, impactful, intensive learning.
  • Don’t like to work over a long period of time & enjoy fast results.
  • Wants a fully customized day of coaching &  plan of action with bite sized pieces to follow after our intensives for real change.

It is not for:

  • People who like group work.
  • People who like to work on their own or at their own pace. 
  • Like to learn over a longer period of time.
WHAT IS THIS?

Intensive Basics:

 

  • A full-day (6 hours) digging deeply into with Kira 1:1. Topics are below.
  • A personalized printable action plan with bite size steps to apply what you learned for real change & growth.
  • 30 days of support from Kira after our day together (over Voxer) to ask questions & get feedback.
HOW DOES IT WORK?

Today: You scroll down & pick your topic, day, & make your payment to hold your spot. 

Next, we will schedule a 60 minute “Get to know you” Call to find out more about you and to help me plan your best day.

Two weeks before: You will receive your pre-work & portal access.  You will also get your welcome gift in the mail.

Your Intensive Day: We meet for 5 hours. 2 1/2 hours in the morning, 30 minute lunch, & 2 1/2 hours in the afternoon. 

Day after Intensive: 30 days of support from Kira as you implement what you learned in small, bite-sized pieces.

5 Days after Intensive: You will receive your personalized action plan that is customizedto you & what we discussed/learned.

WHEN IS IT?

RD Intensives are available multiple times a month on Tuesday, Thursdays, Saturdays, & Sundays.  Usually from 11 am EST – 4:30 pm EST.

You just pick the day that works with your schedule. 

WHERE IS IT?

Our intensive is all done virtually online on the zoom app.  

If you are wanting to come to Madison and do a LIVE in-person day together, let Kira know.  We can probably make that happen.  Travel & accommodations will be extra. 

OPTION 1: DATE LIKE YOU MEAN IT

Real & helpful resources to date with safety, authenticity & intention. Plus, be able to spot your person in real life!

You will learn:

  • How to spot emotionally unavailable people quickly & easily.
  • Great first dates with safety tips, smart first date questions, strategies & after date assessment.
  • Basic boundaries to set in early dating (with scripts!)
  • Full 3 month healthy dating walkthrough –  with thoughtful & helpful first dates ideas, questions, guidelines, scripts, strategies, sex timelines, & safety tips so you feel confident and ready!
  • Pre-date strategies and post-date assessments for intentional success.
  • How to have tough dating conversations (like Defining the Relationship & asking for what you need) with easy to use scripts.
AWESOME FORMER GRAD, HEATHER—>

AWESOME FORMER GRAD, HEATHER 👆

AWESOME FORMER GRAD, SARAH 👆

OPTION 2: WHAT YOU NEED for love

How you learned to love, what you need, who's a good match for you, because it's different for everyone.

You will learn:

  • Who you are attracted to and why?
  • How you learned to love and what’s helping & what isn’t.
  • Your attachment style – how it shows up & how to date other attachment styles.
  • Your Key Values and Strengths and what you bring to the relationship
  • Personal Red Flags, Dealbreakers, and Relationship Styles so you can spot a great match

<—-AWESOME FORMER GRAD, SARAH

OPTION 3: REWIRE YOUR BRAIN FOR LOVE

Over our lifetime after hurt & disappointment we can learn some unhelpful beliefs & mindsets that can keep us single. This weekend is ALL about rewiring our brain to feel confident & open to love.

 
  • Growth Mindset in Love: How to approach love & dating with an open mind & heart.
  • Work WITH your inner critic – so they are helping, not hurting.
  • Limiting Beliefs & Thinking Traps – that are holding you back and sabotaging you without you even knowing it.
  • Processing Emotions & Healthy Coping Skills – so you can keep yourself calm & making decisions out of love, not fear.

AWESOME FORMER GRAD, AMY—>

AWESOME FORMER GRAD, AMY👆

AWESOME FORMER GRAD, SARAH👆

OPTION 4 - Learn & Let go of your past relationship

Heartbreak's a bitch. 💔 It's even worse if we are left wondering "Was it me? Was it them? How do I do it differently moving forward?" I got you.

We will work on:

A Past Relationship Assessment that you fill out & we walk through together.

We will assess honestly & super kindly:

  • what WAS your role
  • what WASN’T your role
  • what you can start working on,
  • what to let go of & how

We will look at Your Partner Picker & where it can be fixed for moving forward.

You will also get tons of support, kind feedback, warm fuzzies, mini moments of breathing, during the process. 

 

<—AWESOME FORMER GRAD, REINA

SUCCESS STORY

"This work will change every facet of your life"

“This work will change every facet of your life – yes, it will change your romantic relationships but it will change how you show up in every relationship….for the better.”
Amanda, PA

1. CHOOSE YOUR OPTION & DAY

Scroll down to pick our day together.  

There are many dates available each month into 2024.

I do intensives on Tuesdays, Thursdays, Saturdays, & Sundays from 11 am et – 4:30 pm.  

Pick one of the options/topics or bundle all three for the whole experience ( & a discount!)

After you sign-up, you will get an official welcome email with first steps.

2. PRE-WORK & PORTAL ACCESS

At two weeks out from our Intensive Day, you will get access to your private portal & the pre-work.  

These will be done before our call on your own.  Please set aside 2-3 hours for this work.

This gets us the foundational knowledge for you to get the most out of this experience.

3. OUR INTENSIVE DAY ARRIVES

Each intensive is is 6 hours. 3 hours in the morning a 30 minute lunch break and then 3 hours in the afternoon.

You and I will walk through each topic, working through questions & activities. It’s a hybrid of in-real-time-learning, coaching questions, & activities to learn, apply, AND practice.

4. AFTER INTENSIVE SUPPORT & TAKEAWAYS

After our day together you will get:

30 days of voxer support (a walkie talkie app available for all smartphones). You have up to 1 hr between the two of you to ask Kira follow-up questions, clarifications, or strategy.

In a few days after our call in your portal you will receive:

  • A video recording of our intensive & all slide decks from our time together.
  • A full takeaway workbook full of resources, cheat sheets, scripts & bonuses from the intensive topic you chose.

Plus these awesome bonuses

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3 months of Reinventing Dating Podcast Membership

*Full access to the podcast library (over 300 episodes)

*Monthly bonus episode

*Opportunity to submit questions for Q and A episodes

*Weigh in on upcoming topics, series, & movies for Ruining Rom-coms

*Private group with regular access to Kira.

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DISCOUNTS TO FUTURE COACHING, & RETREATS.

My clients mean the world to me & after you’ve worked with me you are on my grad list. The grad list regularly is offered private events & retreats, discounted programs, & my sweary voice stuck in their brains (in a good way) FOREVER!😂

 

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MEET PEOPLE IRL CHALLENGE & SCAVENGER HUNT

Who says meeting new people has to be boring or like an interview?

This easy printable pdf has a challenge, a scavenger hunt, & helpful resources on ways to meet new people in the real world. Where love exists.

what past participants are saying...

HERE’S WHAT’S INCLUDED IN YOUR DAY INTENSIVE

A FULL DAY 1:1 WITH KIRA

You + me for 6 hours digging into the topic of your choice. Choice of either 1 day or 2 half days.

PRIVATE PORTAL

To access all the work before, during, & after our intensive.

30 DAYS OF SUPPORT

From Kira to ask questions &  get helpful & thoughtful feedback.

CUSTOMIZED ACTION PLAN

Made just for you with next steps and an action plan to apply all you learned.

LIFE-CHANGING RESULTS

You will walk away smarter & more prepared than 95% of people dating.

let’s get you real love in 2024

RD INTENSIVE
CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE IN A DAY!
$1999.99
$ 1499 IN FULL
  • 6 HOURS OF 1:1 COACHING
  • SCIENCE-BACKED & EMPOWERING INFORMATION
  • 30 DAYS OF SUPPORT
  • AWESOME BONUSES TO ENHANCE YOUR DAY
  • LIFE-CHANGING RESULTS

“Wait, I Have a Question!”

You’re in luck: Answers are my specialty.
Here are some of the most common questions I get asked about the program

All sales are final and non-refundable.  I stand behind this work 1000000%. I’ve been doing this for 15 years and there is nothing like this out there.

If you need to reschedule, no problem.

I think it important to commit mentally and financially to a service or you will never do it.  I want people who are committing to this process.   

 

Since intensives are one-on-one it is open for all singles, (women, men, or however you identify) hetero or queer who wants to do the work towards a healthy & happy partnership.  You need to be 21 and over.

If you can make a time between 10 at – 5 pm EST no matter where you are, we can make this work.

Not sure if your timezone works? Email Kira at kira@reinventingdating.com

Not one little bit. I love therapy, it changed my life! If you haven’t tried it yet, you should. I’m a big fan. 

In fact I think this work is a great step AFTER therapy.  When you’ve let go of your past and are ready for the future.

What I do is a hybrid of teaching smart & healthy dating & relationship knowledge & asking coaching questions that is my own process.  But it is works.

You don’t need anything too special. You will just need access to a computer that has a camera with decent internet connection for our video calls.

Of course you are nervous! That is 100% normal. 

Getting real with ourselves and vulnerable with others can feel super scary!  

But let me tell you this.  Getting real and getting vulnerable are crucial for all relationships, so why not practice in a completely safe and supportive space with me.  

 

Yes!  You have to be 21 to attend the program.

Don’t take my word for it! (anyone get that Reading Rainbow reference?)

Go take a look at all of my success stories here.

But if you show up & do the work…it will absolutely help.

HAVE MORE QUESTIONS?
Email Kira at kira@reinventingdating  or text her at 608-720-4099. 

That’s my real number!

I will answer in within 24 hours!
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