I have mentioned before that whether I like it or not, life sometimes brings me a thought and keeps smacking me in the head hard enough (similar to my sister in her tween years) until I write about it.

Imagine 9-year-old Kira borrowing her sister’s rainbow shirt….that is the hugeness of this life smack.  HUMONGOUS!

This life smack started about a month ago when I saw a quote that really impacted me, which doesn’t happen very often.  It was so simple, yet instantly started my mind-a-reeling and I knew that at some point I want to share it with you.  It goes something like this.

“Start things the way you want them to end.”

OK. Mind.  Blown. 

Let this marinade for a second and think with me…what if we started living life following this idea?  How would it impact your life and relationships?

Sit down for a few minutes today and think about this.

What if when we were out there meeting people we approached them with how we would want our relationship to end up?   If love at the ending looks like a beautiful, happy, healthy relationship filled with trust, respect, open communication and silly, playful happiness, what  if we entered every situation with trust, respect, open communication and silly, playful happiness?  Are you picking up what I am throwing down?

Too many times we are so beaten and battered from past relationships we are walking around with such big walls that we are waiting for people break them down.  Prove to us that they deserve our love and trust.  But walking around with that lack of trust and respect is never going to lead you towards love.  It is starting with a place of fear and where it starts is where it will end.

If we were able to share our mistakes, passions, ridiculousness and quirks as the incredible, perfectly-flawed human beings that we actually are with new people we would be starting with a place of love in ourselves.  Trusting ourselves enough that we will let the right people in who will love and embrace all of those qualities.  That is where beautiful love, and relationships, can start and end.

In case you are trying to figure out what embracing this idea would look like, here is a thought.

Go into every situation with the belief that it is our strongest human need to want to connect with others and that everyone out there is trying to do that too.  Even if they aren’t always really good at it, they are doing the best that they can.  Don’t give them and the outcome of the situation so much power, since they are probably just as nervous as you.  The more you can breathe, smile and relax, the more they can too.  That is where both of you can let the walls down and just connect.  No one looking for a healthy relationship is looking for perfect, just real.


Your Adventure for Today

What could you begin doing differently when meeting new people to start things the way you want them to end?

To finish up, I am going to share a song by one of my favorite artists from college, David Wilcox.  I woke up with this song in my head and it was the smack that I needed to get this idea out to you.  He talks a little in the beginning about how bad his first date went with his wife and how it’s badness created the wonderful relationship they have now.  I don’t necessarily suggest this kind of honesty for a first date, but I do believe being who you are, in all of your imperfect awesomeness, is always the best answer.

Need help with these questions and more?  Umm….I am a life coach, remember?  Let’s set-up that free discovery session already!



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